January 25, 2010
Can you tell me how to get…
how to get to Sesame Street!
Today was our miniature group meeting for the month of January and we made these:
How freaking adorable are they? The best part - they were easy enough to make that I finished them at the meeting. Nine times out of ten I can’t finish the project at the meeting and if I take it home - it doesn’t always get finished.
After the meeting Ben and I went to see the movie Avatar. It was a good movie, it didn’t change my life like a few people told me it would and I actually thought the 3D wasn’t as spectacular as it had been hyped to be. Regardless, glad I went to see it and thought it was the kind of movie that needed to be seen in a theatre.
A friendship has ended. It was an important friendship to me once but as time passes and lives change so, unfortunately, can friendships. The end of this friendship has been slowly approaching for a while now and in a small way today was almost a relief in that I am sure now that the decision I had been struggling with is the right one.
Being the one who always had to initiate the friendship, who always had to make that phone call or reach out to inquire about what was happening in their life can, after a few years, grow tiresome. But is that alone enough to end a friendship? Not necessarily. However, when your friend turns into the type of person that your mutual disdain for is what initially brought about your friendship and strengthened it over the years… it’s a tough pill to swallow. And truthfully, there have been other things over the last year and a half that have left me questioning the friendship.
It’s painful of course. Ending a friendship always is. And when one person in the relationship isn’t aware of the subtle changes or the widening distance (whether because they are too wrapped up in their own lives or because they purposely choose not to see it), it’s bound to be even more painful. But painful doesn’t mean it isn’t the right thing to do nor does it mean that while the original friendship is over, we can’t or won’t have a different type of relationship.
What happened today guaranteed that the mutual trust and respect in our friendship is gone and while it is sad and hurtful and not what I wanted, I am adult enough to realize that friendships will change.
And sometimes? Sometimes those changes mean an ending.